You've had a stroke and you're laying in the hospital bed with tubes taped on your arms and hands. Nurses, doctors, and techs are coming in at all hours doing their jobs and you're thinking to yourself, wait this wasn't the plan, I have things to do, family, and friends to hang out with! Whoa, a job, I have a job! Now what? you just entered a whole new phase of your life that was unexpected and so the journey begins. How will you handle it?
You can’t plan for a life crisis. It arrives without warning, turning your well-ordered days into confusion and chaos. As you sit trying to make sense of what’s happened, your new reality can paralyze you, in my case, it literally did paralyze my right side. Suddenly, the normal everyday things to do became a challenge. If you’re going through a difficult time, here are a few pointers that helped me and may work for you.
1. Do not let fear worm its destructive ways into your head.
2. Stop the Wouda, Coulda, Shoulda feelings of frustration, that's all in the past now.
3. Focus your energy on right now, where you have some power.
4. When you’ve got your attention in the present moment, figure out what you need. be very specific. Instead of thinking, “I just need to stop crying,” decide what will help you do that. Maybe it’s going and reading out in the sun, maybe it’s calling your loved one or best friend, or maybe it’s just stopping and taking a deep breath.
These are only a few suggestions from some of my experiences, everyone has their own way of dealing with a major life change. I'm committed to never giving up, and I've seen small to big changes for the better in my life. I'm not where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be, and I celebrate it all. Just take the first step, you'll be glad you did!