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VICTIM OR VICTOR?


Are you a victim or a victor, well that's up to you to decide! Has something bad happened to you in your life that you’re finding difficult to get over? Maybe you were harmed by a family member, treated badly by a boss, or wronged in a past relationship. Maybe you had a stroke and are now experiencing a new life that's very difficult to adjust to. It can be difficult to understand and process these events, which might prevent you from moving on with your life.

A big part of moving on is just letting time heal you, but it’s also important to take control of your life and the healing process. Once you feel that you can accept what happened in your life, DO NOT focus on the negatives; instead, turn them into motivation and fuel for success. As most stroke survivors know we have to keep moving forward and at times push ourselves to even do the simplest things that we know will help make a difference in our recovery.


A lot of the most famous and successful people have had really bad things happen to them in their lives. Here are some examples:

Benjamin Franklin Franklin's parents could only afford to keep him in school until his tenth birthday. That didn't stop the great man from pursuing his education. He taught himself through voracious reading and eventually went on to invent the lightning rod and bifocals. Oh, and he became one of America's Founding Fathers.


J.K. Rowling, The Harry Potter author’s story is practically the stuff of legends. Rowling wrote Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone (the first book in the series) as a struggling single mother on welfare and faced 12 rejections from publishers, eventually selling the book for the equivalent of $4,000. The series went on to break numerous sales records, be turned into an incredibly successful film series, and earn a permanent place in the hearts of children and adults all over the world. J.K. Rowling is now worth an estimated $1 billion.


Victor Frankl wrote Man's Search For Meaning, one of "the ten most influential books in the United States." At the time of his death in 1997, the book had sold over 10 million copies and had been translated into 24 languages. Imprisoned at several concentration camps by Nazis, including Auschwitz. His wife and family were killed by the Nazis.


These are just a few of the many examples of famous people who overcame traumatic experiences to become highly successful individuals who were able to achieve their goals. This just goes to show that whatever traumatic experience you went through, you can get through it and have a better life.


Here are a few tips on how we can choose to be a victor in our lives;

  1. Start looking for the good in the situation you are in….ask what are the blessings in your life right now?

  2. Who is in a worse situation than me right now?

  3. Say to yourself – I am stronger than this and I am bigger than this!

  4. If you are feeling like a victim, ask yourself how is it serving me to be like this?

  5. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start focusing on how you can make the most of the situation you are in right now!


“Big things are built one brick at a time. Victories are achieved one choice at a time. A life well-lived is chosen one day at a time.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst



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